Testimonials"Steve and Lokita are the perfect example of authentic Tantra teachers. How do you choose a good teacher? A good teacher exudes in their being what they purport to teach, and this is certainly true for Steve and Lokita." Margot Anand, best-selling author of "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy" and the leading international teacher of Tantra
"My wife Joan and I want to let you know how much of in influence you have had on our lives. We took several workshops from you some years ago and have continued to study and practice your teachings and they have blessed us in many ways. It’s not only the yummy stuff, the blissful multiple expanded orgasms that in itself are such a gift (and wow, what a huge gift), it’s the rest of it… how conscious lovemaking has such a positive effect on the rest of your life. How you treat your partner, your family and friends and yourself, how you see and appreciate the universe around you and how once opened it blesses you back. I want you both to know what a value you give and what an impact you have on your students.” Jay Jonston
"I cannot put into words the depth and sweetness of the safe and sacred space you manifested in the workshop. It allowed me to feel so comfortable and at ease in getting in touch with my heart - opening it up after my divorce, and experiencing powerful transformation. I loved it!" Giorgio Lumachi
We can read many books and watch many programs on Tantra, but the essence of Tantra does not reveal itself until we explore the practices. It is like meditation – if we just read about it, we never meditate. We actually have to sit down and do our meditation practice before we can say that we are meditators.
Margot Anand has said that ecstasy is a discipline. In order to go deep, we have to take the time and make the commitment to practice, to walk our talk, and to experiment. We are currently working on a book of tantric practices for everyday use, and the ones presented on these pages are excerpts. Some of them are basic and simple, some are more complex, and some about sex.
The Sacred Embrace
There is always enough time for the Sacred Embrace, even when you think you’re just too busy! It only takes a minute, will elevate your being and reactivate your connection with spirit and your partner instantly.
Stand opposite another person – your beloved, a friend, your child – and close your eyes as you take a couple of slow, deep breaths. Open your eyes and gradually move towards each other. When your bodies are almost touching, slowly wrap your arms around each other, place the heads side by side with eyes closed. Feel your hearts connecting. Be completely still, without movement.
If you notice that you want to stroke or sway, resist giving in to that urge.
Stay still a little longer and then some. Notice who wants to move away first, and what makes you want to move away. When you feel ready to, separate and thank each other. Don’t forget to sigh!
This very simple meditation transports you into the present moment effortlessly and gently. Timelessness enters your being and the rest of your day will not be the same as it was before!
Open your Eyes and See
Recently we spent time with Lokita’s family who live in Northern Germany and Denmark. While we had countless beautiful experiences, there was something that stayed firmly in our hearts to this day – the eye contact that seems to be the norm. We noticed right from the start that people – the customs official, the shop keeper, the bus conductor, everyone – looked straight into our eyes and held our gaze when they spoke with us. And not just for a second, but a little longer.
On one occasion I, Lokita, was walking around in a clothing store and a rather attractive man who was also browsing looked directly into my eyes, for about two breaths. My mind immediately wondered about his agenda, his motive for looking at me “like that”. Wow!
Something as simple as a look into my eyes from a stranger is so intimate! When we really look, we can see everything. When they look at us, they can see everything. The hearts beat a little faster as we look beyond the surface into the essence, the depth and soul of this other being and in turn are seen by them. Indeed, we encourage you to dedicate just the briefest moment to hold peoples’ gaze as you go through your day. It open our hearts a whole lot and life becomes so much more colorful and thrilling!