As humans, we are hard-wired to give and receive love and affection. Unfortunately, sometimes there can be circumstances that get in the way of experiencing sexual intimacy to its fullest and overcoming these roadblocks can seem impossible. However, rest assured that you do not have to live in a world that is missing love, connection, and vitality. When you choose to learn Tantra, you are making a conscious effort to invite sacred sexuality, conscious relationships, and holistic living into your life and Ecstatic Living® Institute is here to help. Let’s take a quick look at some of the most common roadblocks individuals experience when it comes to intimacy.
6 Common Roadblocks to Intimacy
If you have been the victim of rape, abuse, or some other form of sexual trauma, it is only natural that you may struggle when it comes to forming healthy sexual relationships. Vulnerability is the crux of a truly intimate relationship and trauma can sabotage even your best intentions of getting close to someone. This can be one of the most frustrating roadblocks for individuals because their struggle is born of something that was completely outside of their control.
Not Knowing Oneself
Although many of us feel like we have a pretty good grasp on who we are, we may find emotional and sexual intimacy challenging if we don’t really know ourselves at a deep level. This failure of knowing your deepest desires and preferences often leads to individuals getting into an intimate relationship, only to be disappointed when their partner can’t seem to please them. After all, it is very difficult for your significant other to understand you on an intimate level if you don’t yourself.
Our bodies go through a number of changes as we get older, including hormonal shifts. There might be nothing more frustrating than being in the right mental state of mind for intimacy with your partner only to have your hormones get in the way. In addition to age, there are other circumstances that affect hormone balances, including stress, medication, and environmental factors. Hormone imbalances might be frustrating for a number of reasons, but they may be one of the easiest roadblocks to overcome.
Are you burning the midnight oil with an intense course schedule at school? Maybe you are working two jobs or you and your partner are in the early stages of starting a family. Different stages of life can produce a wide variety of roadblocks to sexual intimacy, whether out of pure exhaustion or distraction. Many individuals who have made the decision to learn Tantra report that the practice helps them push daily stresses to the periphery, allowing them to connect with their partner on a deeper level than they ever thought possible.
One of the biggest roadblocks that we have found people to struggle with is the inability to get beyond their own preconceived notions of what sex should be like with their partners. Regardless of whether these notions are shaped by societal or religious norms, the media, or another source, one thing is certain: as humans, we have a difficult time setting aside the beliefs that have been ingrained in us for years. However, many who learn Tantra discover new-found freedom when the prescribed boundaries of intimacy and sex are taken away.
Are you uncomfortable with the appearance of your body? Do you worry about what your lover would think of you if you were to completely abandon yourself to your physical desires? Many times, these fears and self-conscious feelings can prevent us from allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in order to forge a deep, authentic connection with our partners. Many individuals struggle with this roadblock, even if their partner reinforces their feelings of attraction on a regular basis.
How Can Learning Tantra Help?
Is it possible that something can help an individual overcome a majority of these common roadblocks to sexual intimacy? Many individuals have discovered that Tantra can, so it is possible that it could for you also.
Tantric breathing forces your body to slow down, allowing you to focus on your partner and the connection you have with them and it is an avenue of self-exploration in which you can finally open yourself up to greater physical and sexual pleasure. Tantra also promotes relaxation in states of high arousal, helping you to let go of preconceived notions and old limitations so that you can better communicate how you prefer to be loved. Tantra is more than just mind-blowing sex — it truly is a powerful and profound life-changing experience.
Tantra Seminars and Workshops
Are you ready to experience a level of connection and awareness that you never thought possible? Ecstatic Living Institute offers a variety of Tantra seminars and workshops to help you discover ecstasy in your life, regardless of what roadblocks you are facing. From introductory seminars to advanced workshops, our faculty can help you learn how to integrate love, intimacy, and spirituality into the fabric of your everyday life, allowing you to experience connection with your partner on a much deeper level.
Our tantric teachings are based on those developed by Margot Anand, a world-renowned pioneer in Western Tantra, and we would love to help you discover the difference that tantric love can make in your life. Contact our team today for more information or enroll in one of our seminars today — we look forward to hearing from you!