Too Tired for Sexual Intimacy?
Ecstatic Living® Institute

Being intimate with your partner is one of life’s greatest gifts — a deep connection with another individual not only strengthens your relationship with each other, but it teaches you to love yourself in ways that no self-help book can. Unfortunately, many individuals find that they are too tired for sexual intimacy with their partner. Of course, feeling tired is completely normal if you’ve just worked a grueling shift, participated in a competitive sporting event, or spent the day with your kids, but living in a constant state of exhaustion could indicate a serious underlying issue.

Here at Ecstatic Living® Institute, we are passionate about teaching individuals the incredible art of feeding their mind, body, and spirit with everything they need to live an ecstatic, holistic, and satisfying life. It all starts with taking care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual health, and if you’re feeling exhausted, that should be your cue that something is off. Today, we’ll review six common causes of fatigue and exhaustion and review how learning Tantra can help. Let’s get started.

Common Causes of Fatigue and Exhaustion


Proper hydration is essential to every system in your body, including your brain, heart, and muscles. In fact, most experts agree that we need to consume anywhere between 50 and 80 ounces of water to maintain optimal health. Dehydration can cause fatigue, sleep disruptions, dizziness, lightheadedness, and a variety of other conditions that can leave you feeling depleted.

Unhealthy Diet

The food we eat acts as fuel for our body and if your diet is less than stellar, it can affect the way you feel. Consuming a diet that is largely made up of unhealthy processed foods will starve your body of the vitamins and nutrients it needs. Conversely, adding in healthy fats and unprocessed food can boost energy levels both inside and outside of the bedroom.

Lack of Exercise

Exercise is essential to your overall health. Additionally, the exercise releases serotonin, dopamine, and testosterone — all of which have the potential of increasing your sex drive, boosting your energy levels, and elevating your mood. Adding in just 20 minutes of low- to moderate-intensity exercise three times a week can do wonders for lessening fatigue.

Insufficient Sleep

This is likely one of the most common causes of fatigue and exhaustion for individuals. If you are not getting the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep each night, your body is being robbed of the rest and downtime it needs to “reboot.” Increasing your shut-eye can refresh and restore you physically and emotionally, which can seriously benefit sexual intimacy with your partner.  

Poor Stress Management Skills

Stress triggers the “fight or flight” instinct in humans and poor stress management can leave our sympathetic nervous system in a state of constant arousal. Production of stress hormones like cortisol increase while the production of sex hormones like testosterone decrease. When your body is dedicating most of its energy to this natural stress response, it can be difficult to relax and enjoy yourself with your partner.

Lack of Self-Care

Everyone deserves a little TLC, whether it is as simple as carving out time to read one of your favorite books or booking yourself a spa day. Taking the time to focus on your own needs, desires, and activities that recharge you can help put you in a better physical and emotional state to enjoy sexual intimacy with your partner.

How Can Tantra Help?

If you’re new to learning about Tantra, you might be wondering what sex has to do with increasing your energy levels. In truth, Tantra is so much more than sex — it is a spiritual practice that relies on a variety of components to offer a powerful and profound life-changing experience. One of those life-changing benefits is that Tantra can provide you with a deep sense of calmness and relaxation, allowing you to tap into your inner self in ways you never thought possible.

Tantric breathing is central to this process of personal transformation and ecstasy. Not only does it allow you to focus on your partner and the connection that the two of you have, but it also has the ability to leave you feeling more energized and empowered. Tantric breathing also releases the “feel-good chemicals” serotonin and dopamine, which undoubtedly enhances libido for enhanced intimate experiences with your partner.

These are just a few of the ways in which Tantra can help enhance sexual intimacy between you and your partner. If you’re interested in learning more about Tantra and the benefits that it can provide for your relationship, enrolling in one of our introductory Tantra seminars is a great place to start. These seminars are designed to help you learn how to integrate love, intimacy, and spirituality into the fabric of your everyday life and they are open to both solo and partnered participants.

Learn Tantra with Us!

If you are ready to discover a spiritual practice that helps reduce stress levels and lessen feelings of burnout while providing you with energy and vitality, then you’ve come to the right place. Not only can exploring and learning Tantra help you get there, but it can also lead to more relaxing, healthy, and peaceful sexual intimacy between you and your partner.

Ecstatic Living Institute is your go-to source for tantra seminars and workshops in the Bay Area, Portland, Seattle, and New York. We also offer luxurious Tropical Tantra™ vacation packages that provide you and your partner the gift of undivided attention, something that is critical to improving communication, sexual intimacy, and other integral components of your relationship.

Ready to get started? Register for one of our Tantra couples retreats today and treat yourselves to deep personal transformation and ecstasy.

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