Kai Wu
Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher

Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, Kai Wu is a certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and Sexological Body Worker. While running a successful sex & intimacy private coaching practice, Kai teaches several Ecstatic Living seminars with Steve Still and Xanet Pailet.

A love, sex and relationship coach and somatic sex educator, Kai's mission is to support people of all cultures and backgrounds to be happy in their bodies, relationships and sexuality. "This work is my great love and my form of activism", she says. Kai's passion lies in helping people experience the satisfying sex and relationships they have always wanted and, in doing so, transform not only their own lives but our communities and the world at large.

Kai's teaching and coaching approach is holistic, interactive and experiential, and based on various influences from meditation, Taoism, Hakomi therapy, breathwork, and somatic healing modalities. Kai is co-founder of Embodiment Arts Collective, a San Francisco-based multi-disciplinary healing arts collective, a member of the American College of Sexologists, and a senior faculty member of the Ecstatic Living Institute. For more information about Kai's private coaching practice, visit lovebodysoul.com

"After doing many tantra workshops with Ecstatic Living, I decided to do [Ecstatic Lover™] and was thrilled to discover things I hadn't learned before - new perspectives on how to please a woman."
— K Kelkar (Los Angeles)
"[Kai and Steve] are an amazing combo! So loving, affirming, expansive, honest, human… Thank you!"
— SJ
"Thank you to Kai and Steve for a wonderful weekend filled with love, respect, vulnerability and awareness. What an amazing group of beautiful people. We fell in so deep so quickly I didn’t want it to end."
— WG
"[Kai and Steve] are awesome. I love your voices — so resonant and gentle, yet encouraging."
— Anonymous
"[Timeless Loving® for Couples was] amazing! A flow in the way [Kai and Steve] teach together. Knowledgeable, open, skilled, and spiritually connected. My honor and joy to learn and receive from you!"
— PC
"[Timeless Loving® for Couples was] such an amazing experience. [Kai and Steve] were so incredible. Such caring knowledge, and you communicated so well."
— GM
"I am an almost 70 year man who has been studying Tantra for about ten years. I am also a tough critic and not easily impressed. During this ten years I have attended a number of Tantra workshops through Ecstatic Living Institute and have never before been able to dive into my own sexuality as well and as profoundly as with the [Ecstatic Lover™] workshop taught last weekend by Xanet, Kai, with assistance by Corrine. The workshop created a sacred container of trust, openness, vulnerability and compassion, and is really for all Lovers, masters and others, who want to understand their sexuality as it is expressed in a relationship. This is an extraordinarily difficult subject for most...and the team was able to navigate superbly from the opening of a relationship through to a culmination of passion, all the while teaching about boundaries, trust and appreciation for the very complex world of sexuality. Through a number of experiential exercises that brought me into awareness of who I am sexually as never before, Xanet and Kai also helped me gain a much better understanding of the complex nuances of women in their love making. In a word, it was WONDERFUL. I am ever grateful to them for bringing this workshop to [us]."
—R Tallman (Singapore)
“Kai and Xanet worked well together and I appreciated their honesty, approachability, wisdom and presence. It was powerful to have the time, space and exercises to connect with my partner in new ways. I learned tools to help us stay connected and tapped into my own passion and desires. Thank you for your wonderful workshop!”
—Amber (Santa Cruz, CA)
“Kai and Xanet are skilled and knowledgeable as they are easy-going and compassionate. It was a day well-spent with my wife and other couples. Now it’s time to go home and have some real sex!”
—Paul Guido (Oakland, CA)
“Kai and Xanet are a great team. They’re both very loving and their workshops are wonderfully delivered.”
—J. King
“What a breath of fresh air and loveliness! Kai and Xanet are compassionate, intuitive and lovely to be around. Their workshop was excellent and I learned so much. It was both practical, spiritual and everything in between. Thank you!”
—44 year-old female, Marriage and Family Therapist
“Kai and Xanet have distilled a dozen techniques from cognitive psychology and tantra into a useful set of practices that all couples can benefit from.”
—Dr. George Baldwin, Professor of Social Psychology
“Kai and Xanet are masters at helping people get to the root of intimacy and their workshop was wonderful! They really helped us build a more solid foundation and helped us create the building blocks for our future. Thank you so much!”
—L. Fontella (Hayward, CA)
“[Everyone] in a restless, stale, disconnected relationship should take this class.”
—J. Adams (San Francisco, CA)
“[Ecstatic Lover™] literally changed my life. I lived in a virtually sexless marriage for over 10 years. Last night I used what I learned from you over the weekend and my wife couldn’t get enough of me. 15 minutes after we made love she came back for more. That never happened before. She was so happy she even told our couples’ therapist about it today.”
—B. McGuire (San Francisco)
“I learned a lot about women and myself and I feel like I have grown not just as a man but as a person as well. And my wife and I haven’t skipped a day of sex since the workshop! Thank you for the unforgettable experience.”
—W. Williams (Oakland, CA)